Transitioning After a Day
Transitioning After a Day of Work to Home
At the end of a work day, have you ever struggled to leave your work apart from your personal life?
Finding the balance between work and personal life is a common challenge. It is about being able to switch between the various roles we play; as providers, protectors, companions and nurturers.
Whether you are single, a parent picking up tired and hungry children or married and anticipating time with your partner, your drive home is a critical part of your day.
Below are some tips that you may want to implement into your daily routine to reduce stress.
- Make a list of unsolved work-related tasks before leaving work and say to yourself “Enough!”
- Listen to relaxing music that will refresh and inspire you during your drive home. Try not to focus on news or negative events that are unfixable and can increase your stress level.
- Cultivate gratitude. Make a mental list of your accomplishments, your personal blessings and your partner’s strengths during this time.
- Imagine yourself connecting with each family member, using kind words and physical affection (hugs/kisses) to let them know they are loved and important.
- Plan a short break when arriving home. Give yourself some time for self-care- take a deep breath, drink a glass of water, change clothes before heading into the kitchen to start dinner or evening activities.
Divide and conquer:
- If there are two adults or an older teen, delegate tasks. This will help meet pressing needs, reduce tension and promote harmony. Using praise and positive tone of voice, is the key to cooperation!
- Plan to grill out or purchase take-away meals from the grocery store to simplify dinner. (Purchase ingredients like frozen vegetables, rotisserie chicken). Plan a social activity that will boost your mood.
- Postpone unfinished arguments and distressing news. Try to schedule a later time in the evening when you can give your full attention to the topic. Ask yourself: “Is what I want to say or how I will say it going to draw us closer together or create distance? If you oversee other employees or students at work, be aware of transitioning from this role to the role as friend and partner with your spouse.
- Cultivate patience and realistic expectations: If you are cooking, let the family members know that you will be available to listen during the meal or later that evening to decrease the “ME NOW” attitude.
- Overlook a messy home: Relationships are more important than a perfect home. Some family members volunteer for a favorite task that they can complete during a quick 20-minute cleanup. This helps everyone feel less stressed and more prepared for the next work/school day.
At the end of a long day, remember that everyone is in need of nurturing and nutrition. Perhaps implementing a few of these ideas will increase your ability to prepare yourself for the mental transition from work to home and give yourself and loved ones the nurture and attention you truly desire.
Beth Holloway, MA LPC with permission to post on Rosario Counseling & Associates
Beth Holloway, MA, LPC is a Licensed Professional Counselor at Rosario Counseling & Associates and has more than 12 years’ experience in the mental health field. She specializes in counseling individuals and couples who have experienced all types of losses including abuse, domestic strife, and trauma. She enjoys leading group therapy classes in the areas of Divorce Recovery, Spiritual Enrichment, Relationships, Grief Processing and Depression Recovery. Beth has had the privilege of traveling all over the United States and to more than 10 foreign countries. Beth has many specialties and is proud of her achievements.
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